Push Back: Guilt in the Age of Natural Parenting
Dr. Amy Tuteur
Dey Street Books, 2016
borrowed from the library
(Sorry, this review became a little longer than mini!) As soon as I grabbed this one on impulse at the library, I was afraid that I might get my Good Mommy card taken away...haha. But seriously, I saw that subtitle and HAD to read it. Personally, I find modern-day mothering to be positively FRAUGHT with guilt that others try to impose upon your parenting style--no matter what style that may be. But the natural parenting industry gets top marks in the guilt-mongering category. And I say that having taken a fair number of "natural" parenting methods myself--breastfeeding, cloth diapering, blah blah blah. However, I also picked a lot of "not natural" parenting options: epidurals, formula, the list goes on. So, I've seen both sides. And I never can understand why people find the need to judge so much on these topics. Dr. Amy Tuteur delved into that issue, and what we can do to push back.
Overall, I found Tuteur's discussion to be a refreshing rebuttal to the constant sanctimommy, holier-than-thou banter that you see on social media these days. She specifically takes on 3 aspects of natural parenting: "natural" childbirth (meaning no drugs, no c-sections, etc), breastfeeding, and attachment parenting (co-sleeping, babywearing, etc). She discusses the actual scientific evidence that supports (or fails to support) each of these concepts, and shows how the natural parenting industry skews and misquotes these findings in order to further their agendas. And anyone who knows me knows that I LOVE a good discussion of the actual, published SCIENCE behind a concept. That said, women who are currently pregnant (or plan to become pregnant soon) may want to pause before picking this book up--part of me thinks I would have loved reading it before having kids, but the other part of me isn't sure, as Tuteur is very straightforward about the data behind the risks of pregnancy (mortality rates for mother and child, for example)...things that I know would have made me rather anxious while pregnant. Something for mommas to consider.
My only hesitation in recommending this book is that Tuteur's vitriol against the natural parenting industry is a little much at times. I would have preferred if she could have kept a more level head in her discussion of the issues, as the scientific evidence speaks for itself in many cases. And anyone who is a hardcore La Leche League/Dr. Sears/etc. follower will likely not enjoy this. However, if you're as sick of parent-shaming as I am, give this book a try!
Before The Fall
Noah Hawley
Grand Central Publishing, 2016
borrowed from the library
Current contender for my favorite book of the year! Before the Fall is a positively fabulous mystery/thriller that had me reading well past my bedtime, captivated by every page. A small private plane crashes off of Martha's Vineyard, and only two passengers live to tell about it. What ensues is an investigation into what caused the mysterious crash, as the two survivors struggle to navigate the next steps in their lives.
Hawley's storytelling style played a major role in my involvement with the novel, as he flashes back to each passenger on the plane to show you what they were doing in the years, months, and days leading up to the crash. You get new pieces of the puzzle added with every chapter. The book also goes beyond being a simple mystery by making interesting commentary about the power of the media in the wake of national tragedies (sadly very relevant right now). I won't say more for fear of spoiling this one for you, but I can't recommend it highly enough!!
The Walking Dead, Compendium 3
Robert Kirkman et al
Image Comics, 2015
borrowed from the library
Only recommended if you read the first two compendiums, but this one is SO good!! Compendium 3 brings you up past where the TV show is now, with the introduction of Negan. All I can say is, season 7 is gonna be a doozy FOR SURE (even if Negan's first TV victim is not the same as it is in the comics). This collection ended on a pretty shocking note, and I know it's going to be a while before there's enough editions for a Compendium 4...so it may be time for me to start figuring out how to get my hands on individual issues! :) The Walking Dead is the first comic series I've ever read (my only other graphic novel/comic experience was The Watchman--also very good, though quite different), but it's got me thinking I should look into this medium a bit more.
What are you reading these days, reader pals?